We talk about why proposing an anchor date makes it easier to set plans with friends. We also include answers from Questioners about why they don’t like to answer questions—and how to get them to answer questions. Plus helpful ideas for grappling with grief.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Listen to the March 7th episode of More Happier 
Take the Four Tendencies quiz 
Check out these organization tools in The Happiness Project Shop
Elizabeth is reading: Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel (Amazon, Bookshop) 
Gretchen is reading: The Lion’s World: A Journey into the Heart of Narnia by Rowan Williams (Amazon) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We talk about why proposing an anchor date makes it easier to set plans with friends. We also include answers from Questioners about why they don&rsquo;t like to answer questions&mdash;and how to get them to answer questions. Plus helpful ideas for grappling with grief.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/more-happier-do-you-ever-have-post-party-blues-plus-the-raymond-carver-chandler-problem/">Listen to the March 7th episode of More Happier</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/">Take the Four Tendencies quiz&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="http://happiercast.com/shop">Check out these organization tools in The Happiness Project Shop</a></li>
<li>Elizabeth is reading: Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4rzOoEB">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9781250806710">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
<li>Gretchen is reading: The Lion&rsquo;s World: A Journey into the Heart of Narnia by Rowan Williams&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4skqmOh">Amazon</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. 

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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen&rsquo;s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.&nbsp;
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Ep. 579: Do You Have Trouble Making Plans with Friends? And How to Question a Questioner

We talk about why it’s a good idea to avoid self-diagnosis. We also suggest an easy hack for people prone to worry, and share our progress on “Design Your Year” aims now that we’ve reached Day 100 of the year.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Visit the Design Your Year hub 
26 for 2026 list
Choose your One Word Theme
Join the Move 26 Challenge 
Take the Four Tendencies Quiz 
Check out my book Forty Ways to Look at JFK here
Elizabeth: The Client by John Grisham (Amazon, Bookshop) 
Gretchen: Joyful Anyway by Kate Bowler (Amazon, Bookshop) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We talk about why it&rsquo;s a good idea to avoid self-diagnosis. We also suggest an easy hack for people prone to worry, and share our progress on &ldquo;Design Your Year&rdquo; aims now that we&rsquo;ve reached Day 100 of the year.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year/">Visit the Design Your Year hub</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#List">26 for 2026 list</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#Word">Choose your One Word Theme</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#Challenge">Join the Move 26 Challenge&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/">Take the Four Tendencies Quiz&nbsp;</a></li>
<li>Check out my book<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/books/forty-ways-to-look-at-jfk/"> Forty Ways to Look at JFK </a>here</li>
<li>Elizabeth: The Client by John Grisham (<a href="https://amzn.to/41Q0cqU">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780385339087">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
<li>Gretchen: Joyful Anyway by Kate Bowler (<a href="https://amzn.to/4sT6BNQ">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780593734193">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

Ep. 581: Narcissist? Codependent? Panic Attack? Maybe Not. Plus a Quick Cure for Worry 

I am the laboratory, I am the notebook, and I am the museum.

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Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

I am the laboratory, I am the notebook, and I am the museum.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
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</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

A Little Happier: The Met Is My Metaphor

We discuss the Real Housewives and their lessons in time, hope, and perseverance. Plus we explore a new trend sweeping the world of Hollywood, and a hack for spring cleaning.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Join My Color Pilgrimage on Substack 
Check out the Declutter Scavenger Hunt I created with Clutterbug
Mating by Norman Rush (Amazon, Bookshop) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We discuss the Real Housewives and their lessons in time, hope, and perseverance. Plus we explore a new trend sweeping the world of Hollywood, and a hack for spring cleaning.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="http://secretsofadulthood.substack.com">Join My Color Pilgrimage on Substack&nbsp;</a></li>
<li>Check out the <a href="http://happiercast.com/declutter">Declutter Scavenger Hunt</a> I created with <a href="https://clutterbug.me/">Clutterbug</a></li>
<li>Mating by Norman Rush&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4bKnDqb">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780679737094">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

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